A SEROPE MPEREKELA GENERATION
You see, having gone through all the high and lows of life with my son as a single mother,one thing I always pride myself in as a woman is that l have never allowed a man to touch me in exchange of a loaf of bread no matter how bad our situation could be.
I remember one day we went three days straight with my son without food. This was when he was about 4 years in Wanaheda. We sometimes struggled with rent too. Now in this three days, I decided I'm going to exercise my faith. I had heard of certain testimonies of miracles and testimonials of people that God did miracles for them in their pressing seasons and I thought well this is the time.
So I took a plate and poured a little annointing oil in it and we sat with my son and we prayed for a miracle. IV also heard a teaching that when you want a miracle fast you must ask a child to pray because God can't stand to disappoint kids, so I started off by making my son pray then I wrapped it up with mature faith. The miracle we were expecting was that we will open our eyes and find the plate full with miracle food. Hey we had gone for days with nothing at all, and I had now run out of options of what to do.
You see at some point you get tired of always begging and asking for help, you get tired of being a charity case... I normally say that situations are easy when you go through them alone, but when there is a child involved the pain becomes unbearable.
So there we were praying for a miracle and we waited a little longer to open our eyes you know, hoping it will make a difference. But no miracle. So we slept...my heart was ripped into pieces. I had tried every seed sowing under the sun, of 'give away all you have', empty your pockets, honor the anointing, give and it shall be given unto you but nothing materialised. So we slept mmanyana, in hunger.
When we woke up the following morning, my son asked me with a frail voice 'mommy what are we eating today, are we still eating annointing oil'. I cried. Guys, the pain of failing when you had trusted God, believed God and professed God is more than pain itself.
In all of these days, I had made a vow to God that 'Lord, we would rather sleep hungry with my son than trade my dignity for a loaf of bread.'
Not that I haven't been pushed to the edge before,there are days where I felt like Lord,what's the use of keeping myself when I suffer like this,isnt it better I tell that guy to come over but ask for a favor first so that I atleast clear my son's school fees... I thank God he kept me. So I understand the pain of a young lady that may have not had strength like I did and ended up giving in to the temptation of selling themselves short. I know how you felt so I won't judge you.
I had a conversation with someone the other day and he was telling me how has bought himself land and property and built himself a house in the suburbs. And I said to him; 'the difference between me and you is that when I started,I had to start from scratch..
Because my mother didn't leave us much so when I started I had to start from home,but your parents left you something so when you started you built for yourself'.
This is a situation that most of us are in. And we have people calling us names because we work but seem not to have much,or seem not to want to join them at nice girls night out restaurant,or join expensive motshelo,be part of Thier expensive bridal/baby showers, because we honestly don't have that much to splash around. Like I'm your friend and I love you but I don't have much to spear like you do even though we are in the same salary scale, I’ve got things I got to take care of at home.
On the other hand, I always say that our generation is one of the hungriest yet spoilt generation ever. We have been deprived of so much that when we get seed in our hands we forget everything else but focus on our hungry stomachs... Well, how many young people can you count that got grants from the government but squandered all the money and were left with nothing to show for it?
So this hunger now made us to be a generation of 'serope mperekela'. We almost sleep our way through any position we want in life. Be it a promotion, car, job, new dress, a holiday; anything we want we sleep our way up. It's scary because if none of us have a work ethic instilled in us, that whatever we want in life you ought to work your ass off for it, then I'm afraid for the coming generation.
Nowadays qualifications and references don't work, go bereka gore who did you know and who can you sleep with to get it... No wonder even in the church you hardly hear of proper testimonies anymore. All we hear is miracle this miracle that go tewa madi a mebecho a re a robalelang, anyways Ga di nkame....
We want things so fast and we are so impatient we don't know how to wait for a seed to geminate, grow and bear fruits... we want instant fruit immediately we plant a seed...
This is the reason why we flock in churches today and shout the loudest 'I receive'; Because we don't want to work, in fact we have not been taught how to work, because the old generation is the one fighting corruption today..and not that they are actually fighting corruption but they are fighting themselves as to who is eating/benefiting a bigger portion than the other and we are just spectators of the game who keeps being thrown small crumbs just so we shut up and vote; while waiting for a chance to be offered an opportunity to sleep our way into directorship or whatever status or position... So our tomorrow is really blurry.
Whether it's in the church, gorvenment, private sector; the challenge is the same... Honestly other institutions can fail we will understand, but when the church fails there is no hope. We had a conversation with someone and said 'watch out for this young in 'full- time ministry- called- brothers; because they will spot you hard working young lady and they know that your paycheck comes every month but you are desperate for marriage so they come after you for financial security and you will end up being the head in your house with a financial burden of everything while he is busy with 'full time ministry' ...anyways thats a topic for another day...
Recently a friend of mine was in the country and we went out and I posted a pick of me sipping on a nice drink and a young man said to me 'have you buy food in your house?" Insinuating that I shouldn't waste money out there but should buy food in my house.
Somehow I got agitated in my spirit because I would have appreciated his centiments if it was genuine but I knew it was not a concern,but him having been I'm my house before and finding us in a season of dryness,ran away because he didn't want to take the responsibility of covering up my nakedness. But wanted a well put up girl that got all things covered and his job is to sleep and eat in my house, food that he doesn't even know where they come from and still feels like a man after that.
Speaking of which, in general terms (that is In and out of church)! these are the kind of men that eat the forbidden fruit more than anyone
else....koore you cover the bills,pay school fees,give him gas money,buy him alcohol,drives your car,asks you to subscribe and his job is just to shag the hell out of you. I wonder how he still feels like a man after that...
Anyways my point is; until I learnt that promotion does not come from any man but God,and that whatever you want in life you work for it... Until I learnt that there are no quick miracles; I mean it took Abraham literally 25years of working his wife every single day for a baby miracle that manifested after 25yrs…
So, to a young woman or man out there that is having it hard, that’s woundering when I'm I going to get rest, when is it going to be my turn because it seems I keep working and working but things are not adding up, that feels like giving in to the trend of sleeping your way to the top, it's not worth it man....
I want to say to you don't give up; Weeping many endure BUT for a night! Joy comes in the morning so keep working, keep dreaming, keep pushing and keep praying...
I guarantee you there is no fast miracle and serope does not berekela everybody. You may end up sleeping with your entire department in search of promotion from men my dear... so work hard, invest your time and pray and surely your moning will come...
I may not be anywhere as yet compared to others, but hey when I consider where the Lord took me from,I can rest assure you that your time will definately come; sooner or later...
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