TIMING IS EVERYTHING
I have noticed that almost every second something on relationships pops up on social networks -how to keep a man, why do men leave, how to get him addicted to you etc. Here is my take-from experience:
I have been taught, groomed and inspired to be a good woman, home builder and wife material. I have been prayed for, anointed and prophesied over to get married. And without a doubt I know that I am one hell of a good woman and a virtuous woman for that matter. But I'm still single.
Then I sat down and considered and realized that everything happens at its time, at it’s right time and that timing is everything.
One of the pressures of life is when society says 'you are such a good woman; you have everything a man needs so why are you still single?'
Here is my advice: When the right time comes, the right person will appear and he shall appear and he shall pursue you and you will not have to prove a point to that particular man that you are a good catch and a keeper.
Being under pressure will push you to settle for a counterfeit, something that looks like it’s the one but it really isn't. That's why you will have to work extra hard to try to present yourself, prove yourself and try to convince yourself that he is the one.
Something that is meant to be happens effortlessly. The attraction is natural and cannot be forced. I am not talking about 5 minutes lust. I’m talking destiny colliding and you seeing yourself in the other person and seeing the two puzzles coming together effortlessly and you realising this is the part that has been missing. And you realise I cannot find this piece of the puzzle in anyone else. With lust and counterfeit you will have to try to convince yourself that this will work -that this could or can maybe work.
If it is not time yet it's those that will make you feel inadequate, less of a woman, like something is missing and makes you feel like you are in competition with the other woman and that you have to try to prove yourself that you are better than the other woman.
Societal pressure can then push you to try to force relationships, settle for less in the hope that it will get better. Therefore because of desperation and pressure you will try to go ahead of God and try to push things to happen.
Ladies, you are enough, adequate, good enough, prepared enough and woman enough! If love has not found you yet-it does not mean that the prayers and prophesies are wrong or that there is something wrong with you.
One of the painful things you will hear when a wrong relationship did not work out is when people tell you that you were not ready and that you could have done something wrong to push him away. When a wrong guy walks away it does not mean that when that guy that you thought was the one and really looked that part. His walking away from you does not mean you are inadequate but simply that he was just not the right guy.
You are good enough so don’t push things, don’t try to help God and don’t try to go ahead of your time.
If it is not time you will hook up with a counterfeit, you will cry and get hurt a lot because you are trying to fit in the wrong rib or you are trying to be fit where you actually don’t fit and you will have to try to make it up in the flesh for it to work and it will hurt you.
So wait, relax, and chill!
While you are waiting work on yourself, build yourself up, build your empire and your dreams. Go to school, sharpen your arts and skills and slay while still single. Forgive, heal and be made whole while you wait.
Rock life alone and God will bring you your Mr Right to match the Ms Right that you are.
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