FAMILY FIGHTS
If there is anything I have asked God to be is to be a blessing to my family. Nowadays family is a stranger and strangers become family. Family is so distorted that we tread carefully around them. We can't be ourselves around family just in case they get offended. Koore go a Iowa mo malwapeng. If you are in a family where you guys still stand together without judgement consider yourself so blessed.
One thing I’ve committed to do is to bring our children together. Even if it's my last money I take them out to experience life together. I force them to put their phones aside, switch off the TV and have a conversation with each other, get to know each other and love each other.
I’ve been a victim of family misunderstandings; o bona where people just conclude and decide gore o makgakga and all sort of things, without having spent time to get to know you. And this is the common one; people just look at you, your life, your pursuits and conclude gore you are a certain type of way.
If there is anything I teach my siblings’ children and my child is that family is time spent together, memories shared, tears you wipe from each other’s eyes, hunger you share together and laugh through it. That they should trust each other and know that your cousin is your sibling and that the first person you go to in joy and pain.
Families don’t trust each other anymore. Nowadays we compete, we back bite, we connive against each other and we die alone.
God has created family for a reason. Learn to love each other in your differences. I'm the odd one out in the family. I'm the boujee one. I'm the one that like things, recipes and all those kinda things. What I appreciate about my sisters is that they have learnt to accept me for who I am and they celebrate my difference.
I know when I get to Gape’s place I look forward to magwinya and she looks forward to me cooking samp with firewood with my special tika-bom spice. Betty knows when I’m around they eat recipes and Seneo and Jane knows we eat out together and enjoy each other’s company.
Learn that as a family, you are different; different personalities, character, perception and give each other time to be yourselves around each other.
Today a lot of family disfunction has been caused by parent’s rivalries, and then the children get implicated. Can you believe that had it not been for Facebook some of us wouldnt know most of our family members. My closest cousins now are those that we met through Facebook because parents for whatever reason didn't allow us to know each other.
But we forget as parents that tomorrow we will not be in this world and our children will be left alone without family yet there is family.
It is not cool to ask someone who they are on Facebook because he has a familiar or the same surname as you and actually find out that you are a very close relative.
To us young generation, let's make right with our siblings and our cousins. Let's forget the issues our parents had with each other. Let us start our own tradition as culture of love, tolerance, celebrating each other as the younger generation because we need each other.
Xoxo
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